“Across America, countless men are meeting up for sex in highway bathrooms. I’m one of them. Here’s why…”
By: Conner Habib Source: Salon
“I was 15 the first time I found out that men have sex in public. On the way to Maine with my mom and stepfather, we pulled off the highway and into a rest area. At the urinal, there was a man next to me. He was tall and homely, and holding himself. He stared at me. I was electrified, but held to that spot; he shook himself at me and I couldn’t move. We would have stayed there forever, but another man came in and saw what was happening and scowled. Time started again and I ran out of the bathroom.
If you’ve ever pulled over to a rest area, you’ve been near men having sex. I’m one of those men, I’ve done it a hundred times; we go into the woods or a truck with tinted windows, in a stall under cold light. It never stops, not for season or time. In the winter, men trudge through snow to be with each other, in the summer, men leave the woods with ticks clinging to their legs. Have you ever stopped at a rest area and found it completely empty? There’s always one man there, in his car, waiting to meet someone new.” CONTINUE READING
Ever had your hole anonymously used at a rest stop toilet? –
Plowed a truck driver, hauling a load cross country? –
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Like anything else in life, “they” will only ever tell you the negative. The media or straight people will never say “Oh yeah, I heard that’s a great place to meet other horny men.”
It doesn’t fit into the hetero-normal version of gay life where we are all condom using, HIV negative, monogamous eunuchs. So instead, all other facets of gay life are “dirty” and “bad”. Thousands of men every day have anonymous public sex with other men all over the USA, and never get caught. We only hear about the rare ones who do. It’s like the plane crash mentality.
Laud Humphries did a doctoral dissertation on these behaviors in the 1960s in a book called Tearoom Trade. Check it out since it is both history and an amazing read. Good article Conner!
Yup and I’ve heard of guys getting arrested at these rest stop, can we say red flag.
I’ve neve done this but I’ve read lot of testimonials and heard stories from friends who do this all the time. I could never imagine going to a rest stop for sex but I guess it makes sense. It does sound really hot though. Maybe next time I’m at a rest stop I’ll look around and pay attention to the guys a little more.